Perfect Timing Doesn’t Exist. Stop Waiting For It

It bothers me when I hear people describe a personal set of conditions that need to be met before they can make the next move in their life.

Most often, they’re just making excuses — creating obstacles that aren’t actually there, placing the blame on some outside force they can’t control, and choosing to let day after day of inaction turn into many years of waiting for their cosmos to align.

In other words, they stay where they’re comfortable until it’s the perfect time to move on.

“Once I find a better job, then I’ll leave this one.”
“Once I save enough money, then I’ll stop living at my parents’ place.”
“Once I’m out of this stressful period of my life, then I’ll quit smoking.”

What’s even worse are the people who connect their obstacles in a way that makes their current situation circular, like a trap they will never escape:

“I can’t pursue my dream career unless I leave my job, but I can’t pay the bills unless I stay at my job.”

Then there’s also the people who have a thousand complaints about their life. They typically don’t even explain any connections between their obstacles, they just rant about anything that’s causing them stress, but do nothing to correct any of it. They’re so overwhelmed they don’t even know where to begin, and their easiest option is to give up.

If any of this sounds familiar, then my advice to you is this:

Stop waiting for that “perfect time” to make your next move. Perfect timing doesn’t exist. It’s fictional. You’ll wait forever for it.

There will never be a perfect time to leave your job, move out of state, and start from scratch. Similarly, there will never be a perfect time to get married, have a baby, or have another baby. That’s because no matter when you make these choices, they will involve risk — and it’s the risk involved that makes choices like these easier to put off until another day.

What you often fail to realize is you’re not just waiting, you’re stagnating. You stop growing, hinder your advancement, and basically become dull as a result of your choice to keep life on pause.

If your current job is holding you back, then you should quit.

Seriously. You can quit your dead-end job today. Just walk straight up to your boss and say “I quit.” Leave and don’t come back. The place won’t crumble without you. They’ll find a replacement and be just fine.

Then hop in your car and drive across the country just to see that you can. Just for fun. Just to help you remember that you have a choice.

No car? Hitchhike.

Not your thing? Walk.

I’m sure you see my point: You have more freedom than you realize.

So if you want to create change in your life, then stop waiting. Let go of perfection and act. Once you have, you’ll only regret you didn’t start doing it sooner.

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75 Responses to “Perfect Timing Doesn’t Exist. Stop Waiting For It”

#1 aimée on 19, Jul, 2007 at 2:48 pm

Nice to see this article… the day after I handed in my resignation from a job that was making me miserable. My co-workers swarmed me when they learned of it this morning and I was surprised by their reaction. “You’re very bold, not to have another job lined up already! I couldn’t do that no matter how bad the situation is!!”
I can’t disagree more. How do you expect to find something you love if you’re miserable every day?!

#2 OMouse on 19, Jul, 2007 at 3:25 pm

What about no experience and you want to get your first job? :P

#3 JC on 19, Jul, 2007 at 3:31 pm

To aimée: Good for you!

I did the same thing when I won a scholarship to the graduate school of my choice. My parents refused to support me in attending this school because it would mean moving out of their house. I did it anyways. I sold my car and most of my belongings, and left some things with friends. I moved 3000 miles across the country with nothing more than a duffel bag full of clothes and textbooks. And I graduated…and got a nice job…and have never had any cause to look back or wish I’d done things differently.

#4 Bob on 19, Jul, 2007 at 4:21 pm

Sing it, Bro! I’ve found your musings have been reflective of my own in the months since I first discovered your blog.

I presently exist in a realm where my direct social influence is dominated by people you describe: they hate their position but take no action to change it, they feel “stuck”

I used to feel the same way, until I had the epiphany that I wield more control than I expected! I can and will shape my future, and I’m doing it to change my career and pursue a lifelong goal.

Your words are inspirational, good luck on your journeys.

#5 Patrick Allmond on 20, Jul, 2007 at 12:01 am

action! Action! ACTION! Sums it up short and sweet. You should be taking steps every day towards what you want. Excellent post.

I like the part about the freedom also. We only have as much freedom as we choose to have.

Patrick
http://stopdoingnothing.com

#6 OMouse on 20, Jul, 2007 at 1:34 am

If anyone is interested, Helium (helium.com) actually does work. I’ve already made a $1 from 7 short articles. We’ll see how they do in the next week, but hey, any money is good money right?

#7 Shaun Boyd on 20, Jul, 2007 at 9:06 am

@aimée
“How do you expect to find something you love if you’re miserable every day?” I love your attitude. Congratulations on your decision to resign and good luck to you!

#8 Shaun Boyd on 20, Jul, 2007 at 9:11 am

@JC
Thanks for sharing your story. It’s great to hear from people who have seized control of their life and can confidently say they have no regrets about it. Kudos to you!

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#10 Shaun Boyd on 20, Jul, 2007 at 9:12 am

@Bob
Thank you for the kind words. I’m glad knowing my words inspire you. Here’s to hoping you can break free of your current realm and succeed in your lifelong goals. Good luck to you sir.

#11 Shaun Boyd on 20, Jul, 2007 at 9:15 am

@Patrick Allmond
“We only have as much freedom as we choose to have.” I couldn’t agree more. Thanks for commenting.

#12 Shaun Boyd on 20, Jul, 2007 at 9:21 am

@OMouse
I’ve had a few other people recommend Helium.com, and although I’m happy to hear that it works, I’m still reluctant to look into it. I imagine it’s hard to compete in a sea of other writers submitting their pieces to be published on the same domain. With my own LifeReboot.com domain, I compete only with myself. I’m feel much more confident this way.

#13 LJ on 20, Jul, 2007 at 1:22 pm

Perfect timing, sometimes it’s true. A certain situation may not fit your current time line, but could eventually creep up later in life and be perfect. Kind of like how you decided that you wanted to leave SJ and start over after the realization that your past life wasn’t the life for you. I’m not saying we should put our faith in perfect timing or seek perfect timing opportunities because you’re right, we shouldn’t wait, but perfect timing exists when you actually come to the decision to make a change.

what a comfortable chaos.

#14 Dan Parsons on 20, Jul, 2007 at 3:10 pm

What if you have a wife and son? Can I still quit my job and drive across the company?

#15 Cerebrosus on 22, Jul, 2007 at 6:17 am

I agree with ya. Many of us do what u said but also we have to give ourselves a fair period of thinking before we quit or doing that decisive actions.

– You got bored of your job and nothing new in it

– You think for alternatives for a certain period of thinking

– Then you go to your boss to tell him that ur going

– Take your car and do whatever u like

I like the post

#16 Zakk Forchilli on 22, Jul, 2007 at 6:56 pm

A fantastic post. Im more “waiting for the call from the mothership” kinda guy right now. But im young and my needs arent emotional, they are simply physical.

#17 larry borsato on 22, Jul, 2007 at 6:59 pm

What are you waiting for?…

#18 jim on 22, Jul, 2007 at 7:06 pm

i couldn’t agree less.

#19 mike on 22, Jul, 2007 at 7:12 pm

“But im young and my needs arent emotional, they are simply physical.”

That’s the definition of young.

#20 mike on 22, Jul, 2007 at 7:13 pm

“i couldn’t agree less.”

Interesting that you forgot to capitalize ‘i’.

#21 johnny gordon on 22, Jul, 2007 at 7:16 pm

All true. Ignore the facts in front of you and take action. You have to close some doors before others will open. I was in a terrible work situation with an abusive and unethical boss – seemed like it would never end. Then one day I walked into his office, sat down and said, I’m moving on. He offered more money, questioned my motives, told others I wouldn’t find a job anywhere near as good – in the end, I walked out a few weeks later and it was all behind me. Life is about taking risks.

#22 Curt on 22, Jul, 2007 at 7:43 pm

Often what is neccesary is not always what is comfortable

#23 Brionnach on 22, Jul, 2007 at 9:08 pm

What you say is true, although you fail to address anxiety issues that may be causing some people to stay in their particular situation. It’s all very well to say “get on with it, get moving, etc”, but I know people of whom such comments, although in agreeal with them, just don’t work. There are underlying issues that need to be addressed first.

Such things are addressed by Dr Claire Weekes in her books: http://www.claireweekes.com.au/

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#26 stephen on 22, Jul, 2007 at 9:32 pm

I have to say that as a up and coming graduate of college reading this reminds me of how much opportunity i real do have in front of me and how far i can really go if i just step out of the plane and let my self fall towards earth. If i land flat or glide across the sky it is all in my hands.

#27 Villa Rental on 22, Jul, 2007 at 11:54 pm

I totally agree. Very, very good post. Thanks for putting this out in the open

#28 Jonathan Carter on 23, Jul, 2007 at 3:14 am

Heh! This kind of self-irony just made my day! He goes on about how you shouldn’t wait for the perfect time, or wait until you have enough money, then:

“If you found this article helpful, please leave a donation for Shaun so that he can continue to pursue his dream career as a writer.”

Don’t wait until you have enough money Shaun, just go for it!

#29 Mahesh on 23, Jul, 2007 at 3:48 am

Extremely well written, to the point and funny enough to make the advice easily digestible. Thanks for “waking” me up!

#30 Mike Rambling on 23, Jul, 2007 at 4:11 am

Couldn’t agree more. That why I left a soul-crushing job almost ten years ago and started out on a completely different path.

I haven’t looked back. Take the risk.

Mike.

#31 Doug on 23, Jul, 2007 at 9:42 am

Good work. Love what you’re saying.

#32 bob on 23, Jul, 2007 at 11:01 am

Perfect timing is a requirement for real change and serendiptous progress. The problem is that most people can’t hear the rhythm, harmonies and synchopations of their own lives and consequently blunder from decision to decisions without considering their impact on others.

Even a monkey can make the right decision for the wrong reasons sometimes. But ignoring the rhythms and harmonies of life, and not understanding how to add synchopation shows a lack of experience and maturity. Some people never figure it out and cause great harm to those around them (e.g. G. Bush), others figure it out very early and succeed seemingly without effort. Others have their own internal clock that beats out a rhythm that drowns out all other (e.g. Steve Jobs), but they clearly learn how to hear other’s rhythm’s over time (think Newton launch v. iPhone launch – very similar concepts, slightly modified over time, but the iPhone launched with a very nuanced and syncopated marketing plan v. the massive hype of the Newton based on it’s novelty).

The idea that you can ignore fundamental life rhythms is a very Western/Christian idea (“what I say is more important than what I see/hear” — the argument at the heart of Hegelian ontology), is at the heart of the “white men can’t dance” syndrome, and should be viewed with extreme skepticism.

#33 Scrypt on 23, Jul, 2007 at 11:14 am

Great article…

Was just thinking about my life and noticed I gained on most of the risky decisions and lost on most of the “secure” ones.

As long as you can draw the line between “a little risky” and “insanely risky”, never let yourself be held back by petty scares (“what if”s basically!).

And never miss an opportunity you might regret one day!

#34 jon on 23, Jul, 2007 at 3:13 pm

Good article, and keep up the writing.

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#36 Mark on 23, Jul, 2007 at 6:20 pm

Oh boy does this anger me.

You’re sick and tired of hearing excuses? Do you have any friends left? Has your family kicked you out for being an arrogant ass?

People fail, buddy, people fail a lot, and they deserve compassion and unconditional love. Your “Just Do It” attitude is poisonous, and it infects our whole culture, and you are just as much a victim of it as you are victimizer.

If someone is stuck, if someone has tried and failed, if someone is depressed, your snotty little kick-in-the-pants isn’t helpful.

You give me the impression of being very young, and trying hard to be smart. I would advise you to get a little more wisdom, think for yourself a bit more, and if you’re going to spout cliches and judgments at least back it up with a few facts. Your article is full of gereralities.

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#40 schenn on 24, Jul, 2007 at 9:18 pm

yea..cuz its so easy to get a job when youre homeless….

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#42 Athena on 25, Jul, 2007 at 1:50 pm

While I like the attitude, there is such a thing as a calculated risk. Although it’s never the perfect time to have a baby, for instance, some times are better than others. There have been plenty of people who have quit their jobs and gone after that dream job only to fail, lose their health care, leave their children with nothing, etc.

It would be nice to think we could just throw caution to the wind in every instance, but especially for those with others to support, it’s not always the best choice. Some of those “excuses” aren’t excuses, but reasons.

There’s something to be said for being a responsible person. If you’re living in poverty and can’t afford to take your a sick daughter to the doctor, it’s not a good time to drop everything and walk across the country. Sometimes you have to think of others and how your decisions affect them.

But, if you’ve calculated the risks and the odds are in your favor, you’re willing to suffer the consequences if you fail and you are not risking hurting others, then go for it! If you’re in total agreement with this article, check out the book “Do It! Let’s Get Off Our Buts: A Guide to Living Your Dreams” by John-Roger McWilliams, Peter McWilliams. Enjoy!

#43 Suzanne on 26, Jul, 2007 at 11:06 am

Just walking up to my boss and saying, “I quit!” is something I NEVER would have considered doing back when I had a job. I am a single mother of three, and the spectre of unemployment kept me firmly in my place in my cubicle.

Then, my worst fear was realized – I was downsized. Same net result as, “I quit!”, apart from the cushion of the unemployment checks.

That was 2002, and I’m proud to say I’ve been self-employed ever since. Having not only survived, but thrived since the “unthinkable” event, I no longer wait for perfect timing for things that are important to me. I go for it.

Yes, I’ve fallen flat on my face a few times, but I enjoy freedoms today that my cubicle friends only dream of. Once you understand there’s no such thing as job security, the entrepreneurial life takes on a whole new meaning.

Don’t wait “until…”

#44 mike on 29, Jul, 2007 at 9:19 pm

>“i couldn’t agree less.�
>Interesting that you forgot to capitalize ‘i’.

interesting that you use ` and ´ instead of ‘. trust me, i could live up to your spelling and grammar standards if i wanted to, but i don’t feel like it.

#45 ann on 01, Aug, 2007 at 1:41 am

hello…i love to read your article…do u have any article about being single??

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#47 Kaya on 04, Aug, 2007 at 8:27 am

Thanks for the article, it was a great read and I have enjoyed following through your archives. This scares me though. I am a 19-year old college student who is very likely to become a college dropout. The urge I have to pile a few things in a backpack and take off for places and opportunities unknown is incredible, but I’m afraid of failure. Failure at this would be more than a pink index card and a two-letter word. Thank you for your inspiration, and here’s hoping it will get me off the ground!

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#49 John on 29, Oct, 2007 at 9:33 am

Interesting post. I have to disagree to a degree.

In “The Science of Getting Rich”, they discuss the idea of picturing what you want and then keeping a mental image of it as often as you can. The idea being that, rather than having to make a radical change, like outright quitting your job with no safety net, keeping the image of what you want will help you focus on it and make it happen through everyday opportunities that you would otherwise miss. The idea is to build off of what you are doing now to get where you want to go.

I agree with this idea rather than just radical change. You do still need to take action though, so making excuses or complaints is still not going to work. Usually you have to make the effort by using your “free time” to build something with no return until you reach a point where you are making an income enough to make it your primary job.

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#54 Serene on 29, Feb, 2008 at 8:43 am

I quit my job almost two weeks ago and with two more weeks left on my notice (we have a 30 day notice), I am throughly convinced that this was the best decision I have ever made! Without another job waiting for me, the “timing”, to everyone around me, seemed far less than ideal, but to me, it was long overdue!

Shaun this article resonated so much with me, that I like to think on some level it was the final catalyst I needed to walk into my boss’ office and tell her that I was ‘resigning from my position’.

Life is about alternate paths, not regrets.

#55 John on 03, Mar, 2008 at 1:44 pm

I got fired from a job 6 months ago. Now I have my own business, and control my life. I hated the job anyway, so it was the best thing that happen to me. Do what you love, and you will prosper.

#56 samantha on 31, Mar, 2008 at 12:59 pm

this puts to words feelings i have had for a long time. as an adult, i have realized that i would always have to work full time from this point on and that my bills weren’t an excuse to not go back and finish school. last year i just decided to try to take one class at the local community college to see if i could do both school and work. Now I have a 4.0 and am transferring to a really great 4 year. going to school full time, still working full time. anyone can do it. everyone should read this.

#57 Sprite on 04, Apr, 2008 at 9:04 pm

I wholeheartedly agree.

If I’d stayed in my job then it would have sucked the life out of me. So I quit after they refused to let me use my holiday days, without another job in the wings and without any sort of contingency plan.

Best thing I ever did.

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#62 Luis Gross on 18, Sep, 2008 at 3:50 pm

Wow!

You have walked down the path of the wise, my friend.

This is exactly the kind of thing that friends of mine say, and when I try to explain what you just beautifully explained to me, they don’t see it.

They just add another excuse on top of why my solution for them won’t work.

I don’t get.

Guess it’s just best to let these kind of people be.

Let them ruin their lives.

This is the post of the year.

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#66 Helena on 05, Jul, 2009 at 3:48 am

I have been waiting for the perfect time to a lot of things . I trying to get out of my comfort zone. i am scared.
Thanks

#67 Deana on 04, Dec, 2009 at 12:27 pm

Great post! One thing though? I have no problem leaving the state or even quiting my job without another one lined up, I am dating a guy who is “waiting for the right time” i’ve been begging him for 2 years to leave PA and now I found an awesome job in Winchester VA and would like to leave asap! I even told him I would work 2 jobs until he could find a job down there. He keeps putting it off or he’ll just say NO! I dont want to break it off with him but I dont know what else I can do??? He’s always saying we dont have enough money but i figure as long as i have enough money to get a place and electric and water oh and food then thats enough money for me. Am I totally wrong on the money issue or should I stay here and save up a couple thousand dollars and be miserable (and possibly lose the job) so he is comfortable about moving or is it safe to just go without the finacial stability??? please help!!

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#70 Mo on 05, Aug, 2011 at 8:07 pm

I was stuck in a dead-end job for nearly five years. Finally made the decision to leave, without another job lined up. Good thing I did, since when I gave notice they informed me they were going to get rid of me because they wanted someone with a different skill set than I had.

This was news to me, as the skills they were needing were not skills they had required when I was first hired! I had never had anything but good reviews in my time there. On top of my terror of going in there to give notice, this was a shock on top of it all!

I wish I could tell you my story has a happy ending. Unfortunately, it does not. I’ve been looking for work now for four years. No end in sight.

#71 Jay on 05, Sep, 2011 at 11:21 am

Shaun,
I found a large contradiction in your advice. FYI, I’m not pointing it out to be a jerk, but rather to ask which advice you’d stand by. In this article you said, “Seriously. You can quit your dead-end job today. Just walk straight up to your boss and say “I quit.” Leave and don’t come back.” In the “10 Things I Wish Someone Told Me” article you said that people should NOT abruptly leave their jobs, and that we should give 2 weeks notice.

I’m curious, why the change of heart, AND which advice would you recommend taking?

#72 Shaun Boyd on 05, Sep, 2011 at 1:07 pm

@Jay
It’s a good catch, well done. One of the things that’s interesting about writing is that as your perspective changes as a person, you may come to disagree with older things that you wrote. I find this true in journaling and blogging.

When I encouraged people to quit in this article, I was emphasizing how you have more control over your life than you realize. There are a bunch of things that you have the capacity to do, even if you may not give in to the temptation to do them. The tone of this article is meant to be shocking, and encourage you to leave a dead-end job if you must.

That said, I’ve done the “I quit” routine before. Then when I needed to get back into the working world, I found that I regretted not being able to list my former employer as a reference. If you wanted my opinion today, I would give the advice that you should always leave on good terms without burning bridges. Like I mentioned in my 10 things I wish I knew 10 years ago article, you should do your best to make the transition as easy as possible, smile and say thanks for the opportunity.

#73 Jay on 05, Sep, 2011 at 5:36 pm

Thanks for the clarification.

I’ve also done the “I quit” move, quite some time ago. In that case, I actually did give 2 weeks notice, but the boss begged me to stay and crumpled it up. Anyways, things didn’t improve and I eventually did just quit. Boy, did it feel good! I felt in charge of my life, even as I marched into unemployment.

I can appreciate what you said about change in your ideas, but I’d also say there is some merit to your original advice. Squeaky clean work history is nice, and commendable, but there are times when walking out simply is the best answer. I think that advice works well in this article, considering you were illuminating the power of personal choice and action. I respect people who have the courage to go into unsafe/unpredictable territory, in order to follow their heart. Far too many people die old and unhappy, simply because they chose a “secure” path in life.

Anyways, I’ve rambled long enough. I love your site and find your articles inspiring.

#74 Gary on 08, Sep, 2011 at 10:41 am

Great articles! Very inspiring, I’m currently in an IT position, and have been doing the same type of work for close to 13 years. I dream daily of making the move, sometimes to the point of desperation. But since I have 3 kids and a mortgage the thought of following through makes me physically ill! Very scary stuff.

#75 Teryl on 11, Sep, 2012 at 12:30 am

I absolutely love love love this article! Now I just need to apply it to my life, but I have so many obstacles. I have a good job that I’m not happy with and would like to start a home based business selling my crafts and hobby online. Also, I want to move and go back home where my immediate family lives, but I’m divorced and my son’s dad lives near me and it makes hard to leave because I don’t want to be the bad guy and take my son away from his dad. I’ve been following his dad around with the military for several years and even now that we’re divorced, I’m still in the same area so that his dad can see us equally. Oh, and to top things off, I own a small home here and the market is terrible for selling houses and I don’t want renters (too much of a hassle). What would you recommend? I really want to go back home and be with my family.

Thanks,

Teryl

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