Learn to Take the Bad With the Good

I used to work in computer support. I was good at it and it paid the bills, but it wasn’t very fulfilling.

After a while I realized that I was suffering from a lifestyle where the bad aspects outweighed the good ones. Money, benefits, feeling safe in the comfort of routine, and job perks were all good, but they didn’t measure up to the fundamental bad: At the end of the day, the job left me unfulfilled.

I’m sure that’s the case with all jobs. There are ups and downs, two sides to every coin, and your attitude is reflective of your perspective. When you concentrate on the good aspects of your job, it’s easy to ignore the bad ones — no matter how bad it really is.

If you concentrate on the bad aspects, however, you might consider if the good is really worth it. For me, working a job that left me feeling unfulfilled was job suicide. Consequently, I left my job in pursuit of a life where the good might outweigh the bad.

I began writing. Specifically, professional blogging. I write articles for a website and earn income from donations and advertisements. It quickly became clear what was good about my new career choice:

The Good

1. I’m enjoying myself.

Now that I’ve embraced what I like to do, I look forward to each “workday.” I use the term loosely because it doesn’t actually feel like work. I willingly drive to my local library each day and compose my writings on the public PCs there, because I want to.

2. I have an incredible amount of freedom.

This morning I got out of bed around 8:15am to check my site earnings. While I was sleeping, LifeReboot earned me about $25. This is the beauty of earning passive income online — I earn money when I’m not working. As I’m writing this very article, hundreds of people are reading my website, potentially clicking advertisements or making donations. The same is true for when I’m out to dinner, stuck in traffic, or away on vacation.

3. I receive genuine encouragement from interested readers.

It’s never easy to strike out on your own, but I have a lot of respect for anybody willing to take the risks you have. Good luck.

I love to see young guys like you with so much wisdom and understanding of what you are building right now. Live life on your terms… You inspire me!

I want to thank you for lighting the fire within me, and changing my life for the better. I was a tech support specialist for 10yrs and within last few months started to think about my lifestyle. It just wasn’t fun, and everything you said in the “top 10 things doesn’t pay to be computer guy” was dead on. After reading your “top 10” article, I got the courage to hand in my resignation. I’m now starting a new business selling women’s dresses (can you believe it!)

Just had to say, this is a great site. Thanks for existing.

Thanks for a great article! It’s ironic that I’ve come across it today – last Friday I finished my present job at a bank – I didn’t enjoy it, and couldn’t see it going anywhere for me. Today is my first day of being unemployed, I don’t have anything to go to yet, but I feel totally liberated, simply because I made a choice to take control of my future! Suddenly, there are so many possibilities, so many different directions I could go, I’m spoilt for choice! Sometimes you’ve got to take a risk, and see what happens! Thanks for reassuring me in my decision.

dude, everything you write is so true. i’m a fan

Now I don’t know if you’ll ever read this, but your articles have been so inspiring that I had to respond to your stimulation. I read the web more than I can probably digest but never do I comment on anything. Well today, all of that have changed. I came across your articles at a time where I feel like selling everything and move out of state also to some degree. I love the way you write and love what you have to say. I predict you’ll be very successful at what you love to do, whatever that might be.

I just want to say that your site is absolutely brilliant. I myself have had several blogs, and my newest is trying to crack the digg demographic, maybe we could chat and share tips sometime. Congratulations on your success.

Your writing style is incredibly unique, and your advice for life is solid and useful. Keep it up – I’m curious to see where this blog will go in the future!

Just want to say thanks for an awesome site. Truly informative articles coupled with a wicked sense of humor.

To everyone who has sent me words of encouragement — Thank you. It is supportive readers like you that help inspire me to continue writing.

Of course, not everything about this new life I’ve created for myself is good.

The Bad

1. I live with an abundance of uncertainty.

When I began writing, there was no guarantee that my efforts would amount to anything. I was writing for myself, because I had virtually no audience. There was no immediate payoff, as my typical daily earnings were $0 even though I was putting in many hours of work. Four months into this experiment, I’m seeing a constant upward trend in both my audience and the site earnings, but there’s still a fair amount of uncertainty as to the future of LifeReboot.

2. I am often a victim of plagiarism.

As my site has become more and more popular, I’ve run into more and more instances where someone has copied my content and published it to their own website, blog, or forum. In most cases, the offender links back to my original article on LifeReboot — there are a few, however, who try to disguise my work as their own. I’ve written about my reaction to these people already, in my Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff article.

3. I receive hateful discouragement from the majority of readers.

For every person that likes something I write, there are two people that hate it. Thanks to the anonymity of the Internet, these people aren’t shy about their feelings:

I would suppose your two friends to be saying, “Depending on someone else for a living sucks, but so does ten cents – ten dollars a day.” How do you live, in mama’s basement?

So let me get this straight… you graduate college, get a great job (which most people would kill for) then get tired of it, go to another, repeat, etc etc and we are somehow supposed to feel sorry for you? Not only that, but we’re supposed to donate money to your deadbeat ass? Here’s a reality check for you – work is HARD WORK that’s why it’s called WORK and not SLEEP! Get off your dead-ass and get a real job like the rest of us. Try having a wife, 3 kids, being laid-off, and having to scratch around to feed them. Maybe you should donate money to ME or at least go out and make yourself useful and stop WHINING about the fact that you have to WORK for a living. Do us all a favor to, quit writing, cause you suck. Bet you won’t print this in your whiny self-righteous blog. Kiss off lazy ass.

This guy is obviously a burnt out whiner. Yes, everything Shaun says is true to one degree or another, but if you take one ounce of initiative, you can usually counteract and thrive with most of the issues presented. So if you are in this work or thinking about it. Don’t listen to Shaun. It can be very rewarding and fun if you want it to be.

You’re sick and tired of hearing excuses? Do you have any friends left? Has your family kicked you out for being an arrogant ass? People fail, buddy, people fail a lot, and they deserve compassion and unconditional love. Your “Just Do It” attitude is poisonous, and it infects our whole culture, and you are just as much a victim of it as you are victimizer. If someone is stuck, if someone has tried and failed, if someone is depressed, your snotty little kick-in-the-pants isn’t helpful. You give me the impression of being very young, and trying hard to be smart. I would advise you to get a little more wisdom, think for yourself a bit more, and if you’re going to spout cliches and judgments at least back it up with a few facts. Your article is full of generalities.

This guy needs to get over himself. There are enough shit jobs out there with no thanks included. Computer Guys should be different in just which way? Feeling worn out? Find another job. Whooptie crap. How often do you think nurses, garbagemen, electric linemen, train drivers, truck drivers, and a litany of other jobs that keep things running are appropriately thanked? Welcome to life, jerkbag.

I’ve discussed my method for dealing with this kind of discouragement in my Accept That You Can’t Make Everyone Happy article.

The Acceptance of Both

I’m comfortable with the bad aspects I’ve listed above because they pale in comparison to my primary good: I’m enjoying myself. As long as I doing something that is fulfilling, then I can withstand anything negative that comes along with it.

Remember, there’s no perfect job that lacks bad aspects. There will always be something imperfect about your career. Just make sure that the good aspects are worth putting up with the bad ones.

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18 Responses to “Learn to Take the Bad With the Good”

#1 Cerebrosus on 25, Jul, 2007 at 12:08 pm

I find alot of wisdom in this post. Yes, you can find the worst thing in the heart of the best thing but we have to accept what we love.

Thank you SIR.

#2 Cerebrosus on 25, Jul, 2007 at 12:11 pm

I find a lot of wisdom here in this post. Yeah, you can find the worst thing in the heart of the best thing as you can find the best thing in the heart of the worst thing. But we have to accept what we love.

Thank you SIR

#3 Jinno on 25, Jul, 2007 at 2:53 pm

Wow, I never really read the comments of the articles I read of yours. I found them great, enlightening, and inspiring, even. I never for once thought that there would be people who took offense to the level of just downright insulting you and your ideals. I know this is the internet, but Jesus Christ they don’t know what they’re talking about.

As a kid who’s been working at a job he’s rather disliked for the past two years I really hear what you’re saying about jobs wearing you down and not outweighing the bad. When I read your article about the actual pay rate of a job I found that for the past few months I haven’t been making didly squat an hour simply because it takes so long for me to wind down.

I came here a few days ago on the digg-stream, but your words hit home better than when I say the same things to myself, or my friends do or something else. Worse yet, I just got transferred to a different location so I’m going to have to drive further for the same pay and maybe a little less fury. My main problem with just up and quitting is because I’m not even out of high school yet so I can’t just move away from the things that I hate, or establish a business doing what I love. I’m in a situation, as a 17 year old, where I have to wait and bide time and just grit my teeth and bare it.

But once I’m out of high school, I can assure you I’ll probably go through with my dreams.

#4 Myke on 25, Jul, 2007 at 3:24 pm

I really enjoy your blog and wish you continued success!

Do you have any plans to create additional revenue streams for yourself via more traditional means? I sometimes wonder how sustainable this blog-based economy is.

#5 Jenny on 25, Jul, 2007 at 7:36 pm

I really would never have thought people would leave such negative remarks. I’m a little shocked really. I imagine those that are leaving the negative remarks are the ones who didn’t have the guts to follow thier dreams and are angry because of it.

I’m making a career change because I simply hate what I am doing. It can be scary but I can’t sit around and wait for life to pass me by so I’m doing something about it!

#6 Derek on 25, Jul, 2007 at 10:17 pm

Even as I am writing about what a great job you have done on this site I have had a good and bad day. Without too many details a coworker just decided to leave early which left me by myself, but my boss says I can have all the overtime I want with no restrictions (at least for now). I suppose the good and bad of things can happen at the same time.

#7 Neo on 25, Jul, 2007 at 11:09 pm

Keep doing what your doing. Your great at it and I LOVE reading your site. In-fact, you didn’t write anything yesterday, so I was short reading material.


#8 Wesa on 26, Jul, 2007 at 12:18 pm

When someone becomes miserable at a job, it tends to affect their personal time as well. There comes a time when one should ask themselves: “In ten years, will I remember this time of my life with fond memories or cringe at my apparent inability to find happiness?”

#9 Sugar Mouse In The Rain on 26, Jul, 2007 at 1:08 pm

Uncertainty is one of the good aspects in my opinion. It is necessary. How would you feel if everything was decided and your duty was merely to perform? Boring! How would you feel if you were certain something wrong is going to happen? Embrace the uncertainty of life and enjoy the present while preparing for the future without worrying much about it.

#10 LJ on 26, Jul, 2007 at 1:12 pm

It’s interesting the sort of feed back that these discouraged writers tried to give you. It wasn’t constructive.

Life is about chances. Those who are afraid, will try to remind you you’re an idiot for taking a chance.

But I think it’s admirable that you have such dedication knowing the financial outcome of this situation can move in any direction at any time.

what the hell is the definition of a “real” job anyway? Because society says it’s a “real” job, then we must sacrifice what we love doing to fit in with the standards of being “real”? Everything we choose to do is real and maybe those jobs that everyone keeps telling us to get, are jobs that people LOVE doing. But they love it, doesn’t mean we all will love it. So whats the point of being comfortable when you’re slightly uncomfortable?

The real message is that if you’re unhappy, then change it. I think you’ve done a great job reflecting that.

#11 Kate on 26, Jul, 2007 at 9:50 pm

I guess I’ll leave you the advice my friends gave me while we were applying to medical school.
Nothing worth achieving is guaranteed.
Back when I first heard this I thought it couldn’t mean me because I was such a long shot in getting in but then three years later, I got accepted. So keep trying, even if you have to an unconventional route or if it takes you slightly longer than others. Good luck with your writing!

#12 eliott on 29, Jul, 2007 at 3:52 pm

You may consider turning off comments on your articles.
Your content is so good, I doubt many people are here for the comments (unlike a social networking site for instance).

I would venture that disabling comments doesn’t impact readership negatively, but I have no solid statistical data to back up my assertion.

I look at some of the sites that I most enjoy reading, and many of them have comments disabled. It provides a very consistent and “cohesive” experience. I find it more like reading a book. Comments are often detractory and can take away from the overall article message.

#13 bob on 26, Sep, 2007 at 4:12 pm

The comments should stay – they are as encouraging as the articles on this site.

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#15 aman sidhu on 23, Jun, 2009 at 5:26 am

hey i really liked it and u know things go like this in life. life: go with the flow! absorb the guds and ignore the bad…. keep goin’..

#16 Jeff on 25, Sep, 2009 at 12:57 am

You know, most people who like what you write probably dont comment. Its the people who dont that actually comment. I doubt its for every 1 person there are 2 who hate it, but if you can accept that then you are doing good. As for some of their posts, (i know you know this but) keep doing what you want. Its not your fault they made a choice to have 3 kids when they were not financially stable enough to take care of them. Then they call you the asshole?? Im on your side man, keep up the good work. I admire you!!

#17 HARISH K MONGA on 04, Feb, 2010 at 10:42 am


#18 Rene on 09, Feb, 2010 at 7:19 pm

I didn’t read the whole article, but I’d suggest to write books instead of articles and write many books of course then try to sell them yourself in the beguining and see what happens, what I mean is we all need to work and make a living so it’s important not to leave the “job” until the other “business” is working or prepared enough and well, situations like this happened before sometimes money becomes a problem when there’s a career swift.
Good luck
Rene C

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